Insecure Recap -- Season 3, Episode 3: “Backwards-Like”

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August 27, 2018
Insecure star Issa Rae

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SPOILER ALERT! If you haven’t seen Episode 3, Season 3 of Insecure then please keep it moving or read at your own will.

Episode 3 of Insecure was entitled “Backwards-Like,” for a handful of reasons. Two of our three main characters, Molly and Daniel, seem to be taking steps backwards instead of forward. They both talked a good game of knowing better and doing better but in this episode it seems like this motto is being swept under the rug.

Let’s start with Molly. She just recently left her white-owned law firm to join a black-owned firm. On her first day things seem to be going well and she’s getting along with her co-workers quite lovely. She then runs into a few uncomfortable situations that cause her to compare her old firm to her new firm. Instead of keeping these comparisons to herself, she willingly announces to her new co-workers over and over again what her old law firm use to do. This sparks annoyance around the office and she appears bougie and seemingly ungrateful.

Insecure stars Yvonne Orji, Issa Rae, Natasha Rothwell and Amanda Seales
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When Molly vents to her girls about her first day at work her friends quickly put her in her place and make her confront certain behaviors that a lot of us actually deal with. A few things to take away from Molly’s situation are the mere fact that African-Americans sometimes don’t fully support one another. We’ve been conditioned by society to think that we as African-Americans will never amount to the standard of greatness and competence. Simply put we’re trained not to trust one another. We at times, automatically assume because something is black-owned or black operated that something wrong will eventually happen. We have gots to do better and let the crab in a barrel mindset go!

Now, let’s move on to Daniel. In Episode 3 we see Daniel struggle with pride issues once again and this potentially causes him to miss out on two great opportunities. The first opportunity was in the studio with well-known producer Khalil. When Daniel was asked to play his tracks for the young rapper Daniel decided to play his version instead of the version he and Khalil worked on together.

By doing this he offended Khalil and blatantly went behind his back to try and prove a point. Daniel like many of us have to grasp the concept of getting your foot in the door first before making executive decisions. You have to humble yourself and know when to play your cards right. With hard work and great observation your time will come soon enough, nothing happens overnight.

Insecure actor Y’lan Noel as Daniel
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The second opportunity Daniel misses out on is furthering his relationship with Issa. Daniel has a clear case of toxic masculinity. Instead of apologizing to Issa or clearly communicating to her his issues and feelings he takes it out on her and uses his actions in the bedroom to make up for it. I’m sorry sir, you can’t insult me and think eating the box hours later will make everything okay. Try again. Love can be stronger than pride but only after lessons are learned and that person’s behavior changes instead of remaining the same.

With both characters we learn that you can’t carry old habits to a new place in life. Whether that be in your work place, your love life or even in the bedroom. You have to shed that skin and once again when you know better just do better!

Tell me your thoughts about Episode 3 on Instagram, and check back in with me next week for the next episode recap. Be sure to share your thoughts on V103’s Facebook page, Twitter and Instagram at @V103Atlanta. You can also follow me on Instagram at @liztwotimes and on Twitter at @_ElizabethLynne. Be sure to catch episode four of Insecure this Sunday at 10:30 pm on HBO!